Getting angry

One thing that I have been very particular about myself in my whole life till now... is Anger.
I very proudly can say to anyone and everyone, that I never ever get angry. Come what may, it has been very difficult for me to display that quality which so may people flaunt around this whole world, everyday so easily. Even though it is stupid of me to assume that I never get angry, I do get angry sometimes, but what is different is how I react in these situations.
So it turns out today that I want to just analyze a bit about this anger concept I feel it to be :
To start with, I will say that we see this aspect of life called Anger every now and then. If I talk about myself, I have seen it at my home, with my parents and siblings, my relatives; my friends, getting angry on behaviour of others; my colleagues not happy with their working lives; seen it in movies, where anger is shown as one of the most integral part of the movie which results in revenge giving the movie a perfect storyline to work with; seen it in sports, where competitors display their anger to themselves or among each other (even though they do it with the best of sportsmanship); we see people in general getting angry .. on the road while driving, getting angry when they dont like the food in a restaurant, when the shopkeeper doesnt give them discount... whatever be the magnitude, type and cause of the problem, the result is the same... Anger.
Well, the only difference in the result is that it stays for variable durations of time, but again... it does result in the same thing altogether always!
So from where does this anger arise? What are its causes? There can be many :
1. Opposition to ones opinion, belief, comment,
2. Non-fulfilment of wants, needs or desires
3. Jealousy arising due to others' progress and no self-progress
4. Physical Violence
5. A Hurting Ego
it is a never ending list I guess... people find new ways to display their well-possessed quality of Anger.
So what do we do when we get angry? We exhibit some kind of behaviour in reaction to it. The behaviour will depend on lots of factors:
1. People involved in the cause of anger
2. Your interpretation of the characters of the people involved
3. The place where it occurred
4. The time where it occurred
5. The duration
6. Were you able to retaliate?
And many more... these decide what reaction you are going to exhibit.
The reaction can be either physical violence in return for physical violence, abusive verbal conversations, disappointment leading to giving up of your efforts, change in your opinion of a person from good to bad, actions that may cause suffering to others... and a lot more.

What we need to realise here is Anger is a by-product of mental unhappiness or dissatisfaction. Whatever situation you take up, it is going to end up with a cause relating to either mental unhappiness or dissatisfaction.
And what happens with an angry reaction is it can ruin relationships, lives, jobs, etc.
So to control this Anger, we need to suppress this cause which is unhappiness or dissatisfaction. In fact, Unhappiness comes from Dissatisfaction. So that means the cause is now Dissatisfaction.
And how do we avoid Dissatisfaction???
Lets first try to understand what leads to Dissatisfaction which leads to suffering. Dissatisfaction is caused when we do not acheive what we want or what we expect. And this can be due to the attachment with that object or person. So one simple way of removing dissatisfaction is to not have any expectations, is to not have any attachments.
If you have attachments, you expect and there are 2 cases that can occur:
1. You do not get that thing : In this case, you are bound to suffer because you did not acheive it and you will feel sad and angry
2. You get that thing : If you get that thing, you expect more and expect for that thing to happen again; and the day when you get even 1% less of what you have been getting, you are going to suffer.
We need to understand one more point here that we are ourselves solely responsible for the anger that generates inside us. Always people say, that I got angry because of that person's action, or behaviour, but it is only us that allow the anger to arise in us. We need to ensure that we do not have seeds of anger inside us. So if someone throws sparks of anger on us, and if we are calm inside just like a placid lake, the sparks will just die out never affecting anything or inducing anger. But if we have a lot of hatred, jealousy, and negative feelings inside us, just like a lake of oil or petrol, then these sparks will cause it to explode and thus induce anger in you.